By: Jolly Corley
Being a parent has its ups and downs—you already know that! You’ve decided on a camp, picked the perfect one, and completed enrollment. Congratulations! Pat yourself on the back for all your hard work. But wait…what’s this? Suddenly, your child has a million “what if” questions every night at bedtime. They’re unsure about camp, and you’re wondering if this is normal. The short answer: yes, it’s completely normal! Helping your child navigate their nerves might feel like the hardest part of preparing for camp, but with a little guidance, you can help them feel ready.
It’s a common misconception that a child’s anxiety or questions about camp mean it isn’t the right fit. In reality, these “what if” questions allow kids to process their feelings and mentally prepare for something new. This is a natural and important part of development. Life is full of uncertainties, and camp is an age-appropriate way to help children practice facing unknowns—whether it’s adjusting to college, starting a new job, or moving to a new place later in life. The very act of asking questions shows they’re preparing themselves to tackle a challenge, which is a wonderful skill to build. Together, with support from your camp and Summer 365, you can help them through this transition.
Here are 7 ways to help manage your camper’s nerves:
- Normalize Their Feelings-
Remind yourself—and your camper—that nerves and anxiety are normal. Think about your own doubts before a big move or starting a new job. Those feelings don’t mean you made the wrong decision; they’re part of the process of stepping outside your comfort zone. Reassure your child that it’s okay to feel nervous or scared about camp—it’s just their brain’s way of getting ready.
Avoid labeling these feelings as “bad.” For instance, instead of saying, “Don’t think about all the scary things, just focus on the fun,” try saying, “It’s okay to feel nervous about something new. It means you care about being able to do hard things!” Reframing their thoughts helps build confidence, which is one of the key benefits of the camp experience.
Help them understand that they can feel more than one feeling at once. They can be super nervous and super excited about camp. The duality of emotions is normal and feels a little funny, too. It is good to talk about what makes us nervous and what we are excited about.
I let our campers know that even as the camp director, I get nervous, and then I share what happens when I get nervous—the tools I use to help. For me, it is talking with a friend or going for a walk. Then, I will give examples of what other campers do. We have a camper who goes to see and pet the horses when she is worried. Then I ask what they do to feel better. If they aren’t sure, I give examples: Do you have a favorite stuffed animal you like snuggling? Do you have a game or activity that is fun? Someone they like to talk to? Then, I explain that those are tools we use to help us with our nerves/anxiety. At camp, we will learn even more about those things that can help us when we are worried.
- Connect with the Camp Director-
Reach out to the camp director and schedule a meeting (in person or via Zoom). Here’s how they can help:
- Introduce your family to experienced camp families. Connecting with families who’ve already been through the first-time jitters can be reassuring.
- Answer your camper’s questions. Directors often know the best way to address specific concerns or can connect you with a staff member or camp alumni to provide answers.
- Familiarize your camper with the camp team. Ask if the camp already has staff assigned for next summer (like the camp nurse or specific counselors). Then use this information in #6.
- Explore Camp Materials Together-
Review the camp’s videos, social media posts, and FAQ section with your child. Familiarity can ease anxiety, so take time to look at photos of cabins, dining halls, and activity areas. Highlight fun traditions or activities that align with their interests to spark excitement. This can also spark more questions, but that is okay. Questions are a great way for your camper to process going to camp.
- Share Personal Stories-
Tell your child about a time you were nervous about trying something new and how you worked through it. Sharing your own experiences helps normalize their feelings and shows them that even adults face challenges—and overcome them.
- Empower Them with a Plan-
Help your camper see that they are capable of finding answers to their questions. For example:
- Keep a question journal. Encourage them to jot down any questions that pop up at bedtime, so they don’t feel like they need answers immediately.
- Help them contact the camp. Assist them in writing an email or recording a video with their questions for the camp director. Hearing a direct response from camp staff can be comforting.
- Highlight Their Support Network at Camp-
Let your child know that camp has a team of caring people ready to help them. If you know specific staff names, use the to address your camper’s specific concerns. If they worry about getting hurt or sick- “Dr. Melissa will be there if you get sick,” If they are worried about missing you- “Remember Jolly, the camp director? She said you can talk to her anytime.” If they are worried about not knowing what to do, “Your unit leader Kathie will be there to help you when you aren’t sure where to go or what to do”. If you don’t know names, mention roles like counselors, activity leaders, and nurses—they’re all part of the support system.
- Celebrate Their Bravery-
Remind your camper how proud you are of them for taking on this challenge. Let them know it’s okay to feel nervous and brave at the same time. Encourage them to keep asking questions and remind them they’re already preparing for camp by thinking about their concerns and looking for answers. That’s a big step in building resilience and independence!
Camp is an incredible opportunity for your child to grow, make friends, and build confidence. By guiding them through their pre-camp nerves, you’re setting them up for success—not just for camp, but for all the exciting adventures life has in store. You’ve got this, and so do they!
About the contributor:
Jolly is the Co-Director of Camp Robindel, an all girls sleepaway camp in New Hampshire. She is passionate about creating a culture of personal and professional growth, rooted in developing the emotional intelligence skills of campers and staff.